Thursday, July 10, 2014

One More Day, Year, Life

Kids started to go to school.Thought...

 1.Another year of proving to nobody but to themselves.

 2.Counting no of working days n holidays in every week.

 3.Some easy days, some good, some bad.

 4.Love them everyday alot, coz they wont remember the variable menu,designer bag, stationery, new shoes or uniform.They only remember they were brought up with love, lots of it, unconditional.

 5.All learning is for being better human beings n love definitely makes it happen.meri Guarantee hai.

Psychological Budget Psychology

Psychological Budget includes handling past achievements, emotions, influences and abilities.
The way we handle our unlimited abilities and limited opportunities or vice versa tells alot about the psychology of a person.

 1.Rosey Budget-Feels good on the outside, not lasting but very transient. Gives an impression all is well, while struggles to hold the fragrance coz it lasts only a little while.But the thorns are firm as ever, pricking refusing to soften down.Reality strikes, get-real becomes a necessity.

 2.Ladoo Vs Barfi Budget-Psychology of people who have all the resources (samagri).Inspite of everything being there sonehow the ladoos would nt be shaping properly, as per the plan.Either due to loss of precise timing or skiping an important step in the making.Finally coz sweet making is undertaken, put it in a plate or mould and make a Barfi instead.Something is better than wasting all of it.

 3.Seasoned Budget- Whatever is the reality of the underneath, is awesomely covered by great seasoning.The proof is in eating.Psychology of people who put enormous amounts of energy in seasoning rather than working on the basic substance building. Great substance can be covered by great seasoning-perfect.

 4.Bitter pill Budget- One wishes not to move of comfort zone, displeasing self or others.But taking the bitter pill challenges, motivates and helps growth.Good to take bitter pills coz if you dont take one today, lost time,age and opportunity, you may have to take in larger doses later and not necessary it may work, then.

 5.Kuch Toh log Kahenge Budget-Do what you want to do.Someone on your side will hail you and in your opposition will do critical analysis- only the bad will be communicated.But doing your own righteous life is what you are aiming.Rest how it comes across has to ignored to function normally.
Sometimes in dealing with various aspects of life we may use different psychological budget styles.All styles and newer innovations, most welcome,whatever makes you human.

 P.S.-> the views expressed in my post are purely cooked me.

Tuesday, February 25, 2014

Caring Parents, Exams Will PASS too.

Examinations time for kids. Relax.

1.Love them for who they are, not their results' outcome. Even if this seems difficult to follow, atleast tell them so.
 This is called Unconditional love.Loving your child without any conditions.Loving your child with conditions, might make them slightly manipulative in their adult lives-Loving for a reason.
2.Encourage, enrich their environment and trust them to do well.They will do better under optimum pressure.but under discouragement, mistrust and restrictions they will want to move away from education at first given chance.Too less a pressure and too much of pressure is detrimental to performance in every situation.The pressure must be balanced with relief that can come as rest or entertainment.The entertainment should not be so much that the hangover of entertainment does come in way of serious learning. Ideally 2-3 hours of relief/entertainment is practical if you want the child to practice sitting in one place.

3. A life long learning will be slow to start with but consistent in growth.So Toppers are brilliant people no doubt, good human beings are rare.So your child could be either of the two.Its a happy choice.Cultivate goodness, anyway.

4.Remember how our own choices shaped us who we are, cause someone had belief in us.That someone is now 'us'.

5.Love yourself, this is the best that you could have done.Donot be hard on yourself.How many of us talk about our school report cards in parties.Its always about school days, school friends.

6.Discipline in kids come from their subconscious, real life role models.
Exams are not the end.They are the end of one academic year so that all students can be compulsorily be cleared for the next teacher to handle.

7.Its okay to be all charged up about teaching your child one day everything under the universe from academics to moral values, family legacy to ancestral glory, etc and not finding time on other days.This once in a while activity also becomes a regular interval feature in time.So instead of not  communicating anything at all, communicating something is better.Kids will know when it is their ''learning the whole world in an hour'' kind of day and accept you as a weird parent , at the least.

8.There are no right ways and otherwise.You are loving and accepting of them, that's all matters.For guidance some children may turn to their friends. Some fortunate ones may be guided by Parents and teachers. Some listen to their inner voice.But if the inner voice says lazy 24x7, then the parents can interfere. 

All the good as well as worst exams will pass.All the fortune and glory cannot help someone pass a real life exam without hardwork.So aim is make them pass real life exam eventually.

Monday, January 20, 2014

Love thy neighbour!

Time to know who your neighbour is and love thy neighbour again.I may be old fashioned. These are strictly my views. Glad to share them with you.
1.Technology should only be so much used that it brings us closer to real people. And it should be kept to minimum if it separates us from our loved ones and well wishers.
2.Because of social networking sites we may be knowing when our friend in overseas had a hangover but may not be updated that our neighbour is sick too.
3.Technology has not touched as many senior citizens as much as it has all of us who are reading this.But the side effects of tech. advances is that it might cause alienation between a loving couple people , cause both of them are busy on their latest phones texting some other friends, while they should have been feeling lot better holding hands.
4. A reasonable knowledge of it is necessary to be in touch with knowledge updates round the world. should be taught technology and also reasonable limits have to be set so that they learn to give real responses face to face rather then believe only in printed texts.
6.Teenagers should learn to believe the reality in front of them rather  what they learn about others on technology.
Summing up, real people, real experiences are more satisfying.So, Time to know who you neighbour is and love thy neighbour again.

Raising Great Kids

My Plans for Raising Great Kids

Kids should be helped to be Humanitarians, strong individuals, not feeling fear for change, learning sprouts a plenty, happy hearts, content minds, simple pleasures, compassionate fellows, bliss spreading souls, creativity bursting beings.