Back Biting - Oh YES!

Being a Friend , Is that Easy?
All of us and especially adolescents and young adults have issues dealing with friends. Sometimes we derive great support and Joy. At other times we may feel a little disappointed. Emotions have to see it all and experience them in varied degrees.  The common ones being like these situations:
1.Friends who feel affectionate and warm may also be involved in talking ill. This is commonly called back biting. This hurts and pains like actual physical pain. All pains subside with time.Give it some time.It will fade away and will matter less.
2. This leaves with a bitter feeling that, "No one can be fully trusted." But the truth is that it is different in real life. There will be some really sweet ones too. So be open to the friendliness experience.
3. When there are differences with decades old friendship , it feels like,"No friendship is lasting." But the fact is that people will change. They may change from who they were. So rest assured that it may be the optimum situation to move on to what is no longer relevant. Be practical.
4. Friends may inter change groups easily. It is possible that we are included in a few groups only. The feeling of being excluded can feel  like rejection. Everyone feels rejected somewhere or by somebody. Instead of trying hard to belong we can work on ourselves. This is the right situation to realize  that we should be involved in our own growth oriented journey.  
5. Some Friends steal friends. Everyone has different integrity levels and values. Being disappointed with other people's low standards is beyond the positive beings. If you are affable you will have many and more if required. Work on your interpersonal skills. Anyway if someone is drifting , it is better to let them flow wherever they want to.Keep your travel course intact, instead of detouring to get the drifting one back. 
6. Some Friends take help but are not  helpful in return. We have to understand that people have limited energies and very few of us can balance them all.Forgiving the  restricted capacity of  others to respond appropriately brings peace.Peace is Priceless in any situation. Buy peace. The currency to buy peace comes from spending forgiveness attitude. Forgive and have least expectations from such.
7. Mean things happen to sincere people and good things seem to be happening to undeserving people.The fact that we got to know about the mean thing in function is to our advantage to act accordingly. Information is enlightening sometimes. We know what to avoid and what to keep close.This is only in the short run. We get to see only a small frame of time.But in the long run what is authentic will find its true value and appreciation it completely deserves.
8. No one plays a fair game.It is upto your values to play it  to the extent of fairness that your consciousness allows. The only person you have to live for a lifetime is you-yourself. So please listen to the inner voice and choose the right over the unfair at confusing times.
9. Do not know how to get out of 'stuck' relationships. Give it a time break of few weeks to begin with.Be strict about the tenure. After gaining control, decrease the dependency in the stuck relationships.Be independent.Take  up small tasks in the begining.  Follow it up by definitive steps later. Keep away from indecisiveness.
10. Some may feel that others are talking about them because they are less goodlooking, not speaking a language fluently or because they come from less affluent families etc. It helps to Remember that people will talk behind the backs of all kinds of people irrespective of backgrounds. Sometimes for fun or in a lighter vein because the time together with friends sometimes drags in a little gossip or harmless small talk. 

Let us try to handle some issues this way to see if they are effective in handling and let me know.

A final word on Back Biting:So it does happen everywhere. Do not take it to heart and sincerely try to think if you have not talked about anybody behind their back. If it is harmless little things then do not worry about it.It is difficult to resist sharing of thoughts but the safest is to confess your thoughts in a diary .If you fear someone might read it, write it on a paper and dispose it after expression.

Important Friend-Content Fact: Not every friend is perfect friend content.Rare metals are few and need a good micro sight. Keep Looking!